Own your miserable-ness

 In the name of Allah most gracious, most merciful.

May His peace and blessings be upon our beloved messenger, prophet Muhammad (SAW).

As humans it's second nature to us to want to blame, shift the cause of every problem to someone else or something else, but continuing on this path would only increase the percentage of our miserable-ness.

If we are miserable, it helps to own up to it. 

           "Yes I am unhappy. And it is

         because I let myself be, no one

         can make me unhappy if I don't

         allow them"

Owning our unhappiness gives us strength over it. Strength to let it go, so it doesn't make us miserable and steal from the quality of our lives.

And also strength to leave it where it resides with us, as an excuse not to be the greatest we can be.

Owning our unhappiness isn't easy, but like everything else we do, when we put Allah first, calling on Him at the start, He eases our tasks and pave ways we couldn't have imagined.

With these simple four step procedure our goal to owning our unhappiness is kicked off.

Step one: make Dua, Ya Allah help me on this path I am treading. With only Allah's help can we achieve the simplest task.

Step two: make a list of everything you know or feel makes you unhappy, it could be serious stuff like spouse siding with his family against you or mundane stuff like, how your homes too cramped. This is a list by you, for you, allow yourself to selfishly feel. Yes, feel and put it on paper.

Step three: for every item you have written in step two, treat each separately as a different entity. Mull over it; create a why, what analysis of it. Allow yourself to mull over it, giving each item as much time as you need, because those thoughts are worth a lot sice they are part of you.

Why do item number 1 makes me sad.

What can I do to change how it makes me feel?

Keep in mind that since this exercise is about you, it depends on how you can effect change. 

There's no 'if our house was larger or if hubby is nicer'. No, it should be more along the lines of 'if I could give away those shoes I had since seventh grade the house could be less cramped' or ' if I changed my intention to love my spouse only for the sake of Allah, I would just ignore his rudeness'. This list should be about You, YOu, YOU.

Step four: finally we want to conclude of course with gratitude to Allah, and then seeking His aid to effect all the changes we would want to make.

Take action, it's easy to be sad and helpless (it took me ages to write this first post since I registered this blog, but Yaaaaaaay look at me go),

You can too, take that step today to change the rest of your life( duh, serious much), if that cloud comes at you again, Know that you aren't alone in this, you have a large fan base rooting for you, me first!

Glorified is Allah to whom all praise is due.